So what do you do now? Yes, you miss them. And yes, you’ll never stop worrying about them. It’s what parents do. But I promise you, there is life after they leave. It’s true: millions of people with adult children are still walking the earth, and some of them are even smiling! All joking aside, when you get back into your routines, it will ease. You can fill up the space with more of what you usually do OR you can take this time to explore. Some parents start to remember who they were and the dreams they had BK (Before Kids).
I want you to think about this idea –”take hold and let go”. Basically it means that in order to let go of someone or something (without falling to pieces), you need something to take hold of, to put in its place. If you have nothing to take hold of, you will struggle more with letting go and be miserable longer.
You have one day… okay, make it two days, to wallow and be sad. Then it’s time to move on. Why not make this transition exciting? What have you put on hold? What absolutely energizes you and has you jumping out of your chair when you think about it? Maybe it’s a business of your own, cooking classes, travel, feeding the hungry or saving the rain forest. This is what you take hold of.
Don’t worry about planning out every step. Planning is good, but you don’t want to get stuck in that phase. Take one step, and another. Build some momentum and some excitement. Don’t be left behind. Your kids aren’t the only ones with the opportunity to explore new worlds!
(And if you’d like some help, that’s what I’m here for. Send me a note at firstname.lastname@example.org. Let’s do an “Explorer Strategy Session” together.)